Today I Became a Dad for the First Time – Plus, my 200th Post

Happy Father's Day

Today I became a dad. A foster dad. So yes… this is an exciting day. But remember, when a child goes into foster care it is one of his/her worst days EVER.

We got the call last week that we would be getting our first placement… so I spent the weekend tidying up the house, and putting together a baby crib, while at the same time studying for my comprehensive exam. Being a foster dad is like being an “emotional band-aid” for kids. It means being there for a few hours, or for several months. It means being both a parent and an advocate. I have never been a foster dad before, or an adoptive dad, or a biological dad. My wife and I had hoped to have our first foster care placement several weeks ago… but social services takes a long time for paperwork. It is not social services’ fault… foster care is one of many services that is terribly underfunded and overworked in this country.

So, today we received our first foster placement. It is a fun (and scary) day. But also a day for me to reflect a little. June 16th, 2013 was Father’s Day. At my church, there was an awkward moment. The pastor asked men who were fathers to stand up. Several men did. Then the pastor asked men who were mentors to children to stand up. Several men stood up. But I was not able to stand up either time. I mentor college students… but, somehow I don’t think college students qualify as children. Anyway, I was one of a handful of men who remained seated. I felt out of place… even though I “wanted” to be a parent. So the church prayed for the fathers and the mentors to children who were standing… but not for me. I did not like being left out of the prayer.

But now I can finally put all the foster parenting classes and parenting worksheets that I have studied into practice. Diaper change… um… well, that technically was never on my bucket list. But I am happy to do it… for a couple days at least. However… there are a few things I knocked off my bucket list this year.

  • Bucket list item, “become a foster dad”, check.
  • Bucket list item, “get my masters degree”… check.
  • Bucket list item, “become an adoptive dad”… working on it…

Once we knew we were getting a placement, and knew the age, we scrambled around during the weekend picking up stuff for the right age! Garage sales were our friend! Below are some of the great deals we found.

Garage Sale Deals

We also bought this on Friday (June 28th)! One of my favorites, Tigger!! ($5) Yay for garage sales!! However, our foster placement will need to fight me for Tigger when (if) they leave… I love Tigger ;-)

Garage Sale Bargains!!

My wife and I bought these on Friday (June 28th). A bag of Mega bloks, a running stroller that collapses ($15), and a booster seat to eat at the table.

**OH, AND THANK YOU!! Why? In addition to becoming a dad for the first time, this was also my 200th post! So whether you have been around for a few weeks or several months, thanks for reading!! Follow me on Twitter here… or Follow me on Tumbler here.**

"Tales from the Crib"

Step one for assembling your new baby crib … oh wait a second… Hmmm… duct tape was not included in this box.

"Tales from the Crib"

Step two for assembling crib… wait,Dude… this is not helping.

"Tales from the Crib"

How to assemble a baby crib, step two (still) … dude… yeah, this is still not helping. You are pretty much useless.

"Tales from the Crib"

Step three for assembling a baby crib (without duct tape). Take all the stuff out of the box and pretend you are not overwhelmed.

"Tales from the Crib"

Step four, assembling a baby crib. Take a picture of the finished product and remind the cat that this is not a cat bed. This information will normally cause the cat to sit in the window sill and not look at you, while the cat pretends he never wanted to sleep in the bed.

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14 thoughts on “Today I Became a Dad for the First Time – Plus, my 200th Post

  1. 200 posts? That makes you a blog grandfather equivalent, I think. Next up is legend status.

    It’s like you saved a gem for this magical landmark. Could you have crammed more true and sincere non-manipulative poignancy into a single post? I think not. There’s:
    – A life’s goal met.
    – The realization that your goal comes at the same time as another’s life is disrupted.
    – The hopeful shopping/cleaning.
    – The future Tigger war.
    – An assembly party to rival Christmas Eve.
    – The father count that you will soon qualify for.
    – The feline assistance.

    Just living it vicariously makes me happy and hopeful. You are exactly where life needs you to be.

    • Thank you! We have already received a few calls this week about getting a second foster kid (the week started Monday, and this is Tuesday!!). But because this is our first, we need some time to adjust before adding a second (or third).

      The Tigger was the most fun purchase… which did, of course, set up the potential for a Tigger war

  2. Congratulations! On the baby and the 200th post! But mostly on becoming parents.
    What you and your wife are doing is so special. Amazing and selfless and important.
    And five bucks for a tigger is a great find! Have fun with the little one and keep us posted!

  3. Congratulations. Let’s hope this is just the beginning for you and your wife. You’re providing stability to a child that unfortunately doesn’t know what it is.

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