Despite heated debates, Casa Diablo will be opening a new strip club location in Southeast Portland. This vegan strip club has detractors who worry about crime being attracted to the neighborhood. Others who oppose it see it offensive to sell women’s bodies.
This is not the first time Casa Diablo has been the focus of criticism. In 2008 Casa Diablo was featured in a New York Times article discussing the unfortunate combination of using women’s bodies to promote veganism. Peta has also caught public criticism for the use of women’s bodies to promote animal rights.
Of the two biggest critiques, I think the misuse of women’s bodies is the bigger issue. It doesn’t matter if it’s a strip club with a pure profit motive or a strip club with a political motivation. Either way this becomes objectification of women… and that is never a good thing.
Objectification = women in patriarchal societies also undergo a kind of fragmentation ‘by being too closely identified with [their body]… [their] entire being is identified with the body, a thing which… has been regarded as less inherently human than the mind or personality’ (Bartky 1990, 130). All the focus is placed on a woman’s body, in a way that her mind or personality are not adequately acknowledged. A woman’s person, then, is fragmented. Bartky believes that through this fragmentation a woman is objectified, since her body is separated from her person and is thought as representing the woman (Bartky 1990, 130).
It is difficult to a hurt a human. Objectification turns women’s bodies into things.
For men it is easier to hurt a thing, something less inherently human… thus, objectification has been linked with rape and domestic violence. Therefore all strip clubs are a problem… not just Casa Diablo, because strip clubs objectify women’s bodies…
What does a good man look like? This is something men at my church discussed this past weekend.
I do my best to be a good husband. It is a struggle sometimes because my wife has been unable to find a job… which means we live on the meager graduate student salary I receive from the university. We do not have children yet but we hope to have them someday, even if it means adoption. If we adopt that is something we are open to and have discussed on more than one occasion.
Below is the list that men at my church came up with about how to be a man. Although some men worried that their wives may use this list as a weapon against them all of us agreed this was a good list.
I do know I want to do all these things for my family. Seeing them written down was strange. I am not sure why but seeing them written was just different. The list was inspired by a 2011 movie called Courageous. This list contains all the promises that I made when I married my wife 11 months ago.
HOW TO BE A FAITHFUL MAN
- HE WILL sincerely resolve before God to take full responsibility for himself and those God has placed in his immediate care.
- HE WILL love, protect, serve, and teach the Word of God as the spiritual leader of his home.
- HE WILL be a faithful man, love and honor others, and be willing to lay down his life as Jesus Christ did for him.
- HE WILL bless his children and teach them to love God with all of their hearts, all of their minds, and all of their strength.
- HE WILL train his children to honor authority and live responsibly.
- HE WILL confront evil, pursue justice, and love mercy.
- HE WILL pray for others and treat them with kindness, respect, and compassion.
- HE WILL work diligently to provide for the needs of his family and be an example of a giving and faithful steward of his finances.
- HE WILL forgive those who have wronged him and reconcile with those he has wronged.
- HE WILL learn from my mistakes, repents of my sins, and walk with integrity as a man answerable to God.
- HE WILL seek to honor God, be a faithful supporter to His church, obey His Word, and do His Will.
- “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15
Notice there was nothing about who can drink the most beers, who has the best guns, who is the strongest, who drives the best car, or who has the most money. If you are not a Christian and reading this list, are there things you can still take away from it to be a better father/husband? If you are a Christian is there anything that was left off this list?
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