I do not take rejection well. I am not a medical doctor, but I am quite certain I am allergic to rejection. Rejection tends to make me less productive on the day I am exposed to rejection, and occasionally it makes my eyes water. The frustrating part about rejection is that it has no season like typical allergies. Rejection can strike at any time of day… even on what was a good (or great) day. The effects of this rejection allergy can last a few hours, or occasionally up to 30 hours.
I have not found the best cure for my rejection allergy. Sometimes I consult a glass of wine to reduce the effects of rejection, but I typically turn to long hikes and/or running to burn off the debilitating effects of the rejection allergy.
Case: Yesterday I received my second rejection from an academic journal for my master’s paper. It’s not that it was turned down… it was rejected without even being sent out for review. The explanation letter said my research was highly important but unoriginal. Being “sent out for review,” for the non-academics, means that my article is sent out to two or three people for them to evaluate and send feedback to improve the article. The instant rejection means I have no feedback to even improve the article (other than it being important but unoriginal). I only spent 18 months working on this …
So now here I am on a sunny afternoon… trying to overcome my allergy to rejection. I plan to go run… but I am waiting on a phone call from a relative. After the phone call I will run… and hopefully reduce the impact of this irritating rejection allergy.
So how do you deal with rejection? Is this an allergy that you have conquered? What are your secrets? I would love to hear from you.
Have a great day, and thanks for reading!!