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NFL DRAFT Curse: “Money”

I love the NFL. I will not be shy about it. The NFL is my first, second, and THIRD favorite sport to watch. That being said, I will be studying for classes while watching the NFL Draft this weekend (grad school keeps me busy). When watching the draft I like hearing stories about the rookies although it will be hard to top the story which inspired “The Blind Side.” I also like trying to figure out each team’s strategy when they are drafting.

One of the things I keep in mind is that these are still young men. Yes, they are giants. Some of them could probably crush my skull with their hands. But they are still REALLY, REALLY young. And if they are taken in the top three rounds of the draft, they are going to make a lot of money. If they are drafted in the first round they are going to make a ton of money… millions.

NFL DRAFT CURSE: “MONEY”

But a storyline that the NFL (like other pro sports) is trying to avoid is the pro-athlete who ends up bankrupt. Believe it or not, an athlete can make millions of dollars and still end up bankrupt. How? Various reasons.

But one of the key issues for athletes, as is the same for winning the lottery, is that many people did not grow up with a lot of money. If a person doesn’t grow up with money then he/she doesn’t know how to manage it. Normally this person may get help from dad or friends (who did not grow up with money either).  So no one in his/her immediate contacts has experience with managing a lot of money.

Going from being poor to being a multimillionaire IN JUST ONE DAY is like going from being unable to swim to trying to win 8 Gold Medals in Olympic swimming. It doesn’t work.

My wife and I went through Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University to help us get our money management skills under control. My wife is amazing, but she is also my second wife. My first marriage ended in divorce. One of the key reasons my first marriage failed was because of finances. Financial issues end many marriages.

We have switched to Dave Ramsey’s cash system. It is hard, especially considering that we are living on the income of a graduate student because my wife is still unemployed. We do not use credit cards. In fact, we paid off the last credit card this month. The cash envelope system has worked well during our first year of marriage. We have had some tense discussions about money. But in general, because we use the cash system and because we have a monthly budget… the discussions are usually short, and we aren’t mad at each other. We are frustrated because we don’t have more money… but the discussions have never been about one of us spending money without telling the other (which could result in both of us spending money from the checking account and then the checking account becomes overdrawn).

My wife and I talk about our money. We pray about our money. We do our best to be accountable for it. It has worked well for us.

If people who inherit millions, or win it in the lottery, or who make it into the NFL Draft this weekend… if they took more accountability in managing their money accounts, there would be less issues with pro athletes going bankrupt after making $50-million.

I don’t remember the exact quote, but Dave Ramsey said something like: Money is called currency for a reason, because it moves. Most people don’t understand the “moving” part of money… and when they stop taking accountability for their money… they don’t know where the money moved to, and thus end up bankrupt.

There is no Fear in Love

1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

King James Version (KJV)

420 – 1 John 4:20

1 John 4:20

Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. New International Version (NIV)

How to be a Man

What does a good man look like? This is something men at my church discussed this past weekend.

I do my best to be a good husband. It is a struggle sometimes because my wife has been unable to find a job… which means we live on the meager graduate student salary I receive from the university. We do not have children yet but we hope to have them someday, even if it means adoption. If we adopt that is something we are open to and have discussed on more than one occasion.

Below is the list that men at my church came up with about how to be a man. Although some men worried that their wives may use this list as a weapon against them all of us agreed this was a good list.

I do know I want to do all these things for my family. Seeing them written down was strange. I am not sure why but seeing them written was just different. The list was inspired by a 2011 movie called Courageous. This list contains all the promises that I made when I married my wife 11 months ago.

HOW TO BE A FAITHFUL MAN

  • HE WILL sincerely resolve before God to take full responsibility for himself and those God has placed in his immediate care.
  • HE WILL love, protect, serve, and teach the Word of God as the spiritual leader of his home.
  • HE WILL be a faithful man, love and honor others, and be willing to lay down his life as Jesus Christ did for him.
  • HE WILL bless his children and teach them to love God with all of their hearts, all of their minds, and all of their strength.
  • HE WILL train his children to honor authority and live responsibly.
  • HE WILL confront evil, pursue justice, and love mercy.
  • HE WILL pray for others and treat them with kindness, respect, and compassion.
  • HE WILL work diligently to provide for the needs of his family and be an example of a giving and faithful steward of his finances.
  • HE WILL forgive those who have wronged him and reconcile with those he has wronged.
  • HE WILL learn from my mistakes, repents of my sins, and walk with integrity as a man answerable to God.
  • HE WILL seek to honor God, be a faithful supporter to His church, obey His Word, and do His Will.
  • “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15

Notice there was nothing about who can drink the most beers, who has the best guns, who is the strongest, who drives the best car, or who has the most money. If you are not a Christian and reading this list, are there things you can still take away from it to be a better father/husband? If you are a Christian is there anything that was left off this list?

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