This Valentine’s Day I was disappointed with giving the gift of a dozen beautiful red roses. I know this option would make many women happy. And for many men this gift is their get out of jail free card. But I knew what I wanted for my wife … and a dozen roses was NOT it. Continue reading Unfortunately a Dozen Roses Will Not be Good Enough this Valentine’s Day… Thanks for Nothing
So, today is my one year wedding anniversary. I have been so busy with graduate school that I have had little or no time to blog. But today is a special day because of my amazing wife.
We moved here last August. My wife quit her job, left her house, her church, her friends and drove an awkward Penske moving truck (which had repair issues twice with the car trailer) 1600 miles to the Northwest. As I approach the end of my first year of graduate school, there are a lot of things my wife has done to make life easier for me. If you have never been to graduate school…here is a brief sample of my life:
- I typically read 400 to 700 pages of “intense reading” every week. No cool pictures or anything, it’s all words.
- I typically write one paper every two weeks. These are double-spaced and are normally 10 pages or longer.
- I grade papers, tests, and other homework.
- I teach
- Plus, allegedly, I am supposed to use my extra time to focus on my research.
- Sometimes it feels like I study 36 hours a day, eight days a week. If you are considering grad school don’t let this scare you. It is perfectly doable… it’s just A TON of work.
During my first year of grad school my wife has been very supportive of my insane study load. The two main reasons we haven’t had a major blow up are communication and communication.
We have a budget that we discuss every couple weeks because we use the cash system advocated by Dave Ramsey. Being a graduate student I do not get paid millions… and my wife is still unemployed so living on a shoestring budget has been a challenge. But our communication has helped keep the budget under control.
Our communication has also helped us eke out a few of our goals. We had discussed that we wanted to have a backyard farm, which is not easy. My wife does most of it… and I am happy to say that we have 21 hefty cornish cross chickens. Well, we did have 21. Twelve of them have already found their way into the freezer because of the hard work of my wife.
My wife and I pray together… although we do not pray as much as I would like because I study a lot and I’m tired a lot. We attend church together and volunteer together (when I have time).
I reserve one day each week that I devote to her. We sometimes hang out around the house, sometimes we go to Portland or Seattle. We are hoping to go out fishing for the first time within the next couple weeks. She likes fishing, how cool is that!?
My wife is amazing, and I am training her to like football : )
With me poorly estimating how much time grad school would actually take, I am very fortunate to have a wife who does so many things to help… errands, drive me to school, cook, laundry, butcher the chickens, grocery shopping, manage the budget… there are probably many other things I am forgetting. What do I do around the house?
- I fix things around the house
- I help feed the chickens
- I do the dishes
- I empty the kitty litter boxes
- Sometimes I go with her to do the grocery shopping just so we can spend some time together.
- And, that’s about it… I do basically nothing to help around the house. She does a lot.
I love her. I would not trade her for $1.5-Trillion dollars. She is clearly Wife of the Year … and I hope this next year allows more time to be with her!
1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
King James Version (KJV)