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I’m Allergic to Rejection… It Makes My Eyes Water

I'm Allergic to Rejection
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I do not take rejection well. I am not a medical doctor, but I am quite certain I am allergic to rejection. Rejection tends to make me less productive on the day I am exposed to rejection, and occasionally it makes my eyes water. The frustrating part about rejection is that it has no season like typical allergies. Rejection can strike at any time of day… even on what was a good (or great) day. The effects of this rejection allergy can last a few hours, or occasionally up to 30 hours.

I have not found the best cure for my rejection allergy. Sometimes I consult a glass of wine to reduce the effects of rejection, but I typically turn to long hikes and/or running to burn off the debilitating effects of the rejection allergy.

Case: Yesterday I received my second rejection from an academic journal for my master’s paper. It’s not that it was turned down… it was rejected without even being sent out for review. The explanation letter said my research was highly important but unoriginal. Being “sent out for review,” for the non-academics, means that my article is sent out to two or three people for them to evaluate and send feedback to improve the article. The instant rejection means I have no feedback to even improve the article (other than it being important but unoriginal). I only spent 18 months working on this …

So now here I am on a sunny afternoon… trying to overcome my allergy to rejection. I plan to go run… but I am waiting on a phone call from a relative. After the phone call I will run… and hopefully reduce the impact of this irritating rejection allergy.

So how do you deal with rejection? Is this an allergy that you have conquered? What are your secrets? I would love to hear from you.

Have a great day, and thanks for reading!!

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Paved paradise… and put up a parking lot…

 

The Story of Stuff Project

Why did we pave paradise and put up a parking lot? This is clearly an example of the ecological rift.

Very Inspiring Blogger Award

I was nominated for the “Very Inspiring Blogger Award” by Chronicles of a Public Transit User (Sweetness6645)!! How cool is that 🙂

Inspiring Award

It has been a crazy couple weeks getting ready to be a foster parent. Unfortunately, the foster care system seems very overworked because we have received three calls in the past week to take in kids…

Anyway, now that I have the toddler asleep in his crib, I can respond to this very cool award.

The award rules:

1. Display the award logo on your blog.
2. Link back to the person who nominated you.
3. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award and link to them.
4. Notify those bloggers of the nomination and the award’s requirements.

My nominees are:

  1. Ranting About Rectangles, inspired me to pursue becoming a foster parent (and is inspiring in general, which is why I married her).
  2. Bucket List Productions inspires me, and many others, to pursue the joys in life “now.” Buckets lists were, at one time, for people at the end of their lifetime to make up for all the goals they never accomplished. But Bucket List Productions inspires people to pursue their bucket list goals “now.”
  3. Waiting On a Word, one of many great blogs I follow, which inspire me to be a better parent and a better blogger. Waiting on a Word already received this award from someone else, which helps you understand how awesome this blog is!!!
  4. Pudding the Damage On, another great blog that inspires me to be a better parent.
  5. Rosie Says, a blog about gender issues that reminds me there is still a lot of gender inequality in the world… whether it is women in the U.S., or women in the Egypt protests. This inspires me to continue working to make the world better.
  6. The Return of the Modern Philosopher reminds me that the world has a lot of stories. When life seems to be a bit too stressful, reading some of his posts inspires me to relax and not sweat the small stuff.
  7. Sounds like Orange inspires me to sample new music. Every week there are new music artists reviewed on this site… along with other interesting posts 🙂
  8. Livenowandzen, inspires me not only as a blogger but as a parent. The honesty in her posts is humble, plus she is a very good writer.
  9. The Thesis Whisperer, well, I am a graduate student… so this blog is very helpful to me. It inspires me to be a better academic writer, and to not give up when grad school gets “gradschoolish.” In addition, it was because of this blog that I followed through with the idea for a mini-retreat to finish my master’s paper!
  10. Don’t We Look Alike, a blog that has been encouraging to me during the foster care journey my wife and I have pursued.
  11. Drops of Ink, a blog that has already won this award (3 times). You should still check out the haikus / poetry produced by this blog on a regular basis.
  12. Lost in Thot, a blog of wonderful photography that inspires me to attempt great photographs.
  13. Running for Haiti, someone like me who is running for a cause!
  14. Jump for Joy Photo Project, inspiring and fun blog from a creative photo artist.
  15. Leanne Cole Photography, an inspiring and dynamic photo artist that everyone should check out.

I was nominated for this award a couple weeks ago. Again, thank you to Chronicles of a Public Transit User (Sweetness6645). I apologize in the delay for responding to it, but as you know the last couple weeks have been quite busy and amazing for me as I became a foster dad for the first time!

For a foster update, this happened yesterday. I do not have a pseudonym for the foster kid yet:

Kid was hungry, so I made a bottle of milk and formula. The kid started clapping and laughing in anticipation. I turned, dropped the bottle… and it was like a milk volcano erupted in the kitchen. Kid’s laughter turned into crying, literally, over spilled milk. Even though the kid was freaking out, I faked being calm, and in supersonic speed I had a new bottle of milk/formula ready. The kid laughed and guzzled the bottle of formula. While the kid guzzled the bottle of formula, the cats and I cleaned up the spilled milk in the kitchen.

 

That’s all for now! Thanks for reading, and have a safe and wonderful 4th of July!!

What is Your Cat’s “Real” Name?

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Thumb Cat

What is your cat’s real name? Do you know? No, you probably don’t know. Although this post features my cats it is not solely about cats’ names. It is about animals. All animals.

My wife and I have three cats.

  • Two of our cats get along fairly well: Mawey and Beannacht.
  • Two of our cats get along okay-ish: Beannacht and Thumb Cat.
  • Two of our cats do not get along: Thumb Cat and Mawey.

I notice their distinct personalities and quirky interactions on a daily basis. I have tried a few different things to get Thumb Cat and Mawey to get along better. And then one day my wife and I saw a show called “My Cat From Hell,” which features a cat whisperer. I realize this man is on a reality show where nothing is “really” real. But there are enough aspects of reality to this show that made me realize how much fear, anger, and personality cats can have. This cat whisperer’s gig is that he goes to a home with a “cat from hell” and within a few weeks of therapy/training with the cat, he can turn the hell cat into a cool kitten.

So this show has made me want to redouble my efforts with Thumb Cat and Mawey. Thumb Cat is nearly four pounds bigger than Mawey, but Mawey pounces on nearly everything. In addition, Thumb Cat runs from cats half his size when they come to the window. So one cat is too rough, and the other cat is a scaredy cat. Well, if cats are so distinctive in personality, what are their real names?

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Beannacht

When you notice a cat in profound meditation
The reason, I tell you, is always the same:
His mind is engaged in a rapt contemplation
Of the thought
Of the thought
Of the thought
Of his name

His ineffable effable effanineffable
Deep and inscrutable singular name – Cats, Naming of Cats Lyrics

I began thinking about this because of a story that again made news recently about dolphins calling each other by name. Dolphins are very intelligent. It is easy for many people to think about dolphins as a living creature that deserves respect. For many people it is equally easy to think of cats as complex creatures. And wolves. Wolves Bottlenose dolphins swim at a research center in Key Largo, Florida.are animals that have hierarchy within the pack, notably having an alpha and omega wolf. This implies intense interpersonal interactions and respect within the wolf pack.

Do wolves call each other by name? Do cats and dogs call each other by name? It is easy to treat an “animal” as something less than human because animals are a lesser species. Dumb animals. Except that cats have very distinct personalities. And wolves have very distinct hierarchies in their packs. And dolphins call each other by name.

What's Your Cat's Real Name? http://www.ishism.com
Mawey

Do you see where this is going? How many “lesser species” are so advanced that they might be calling each other by name? It would not surprise me to discover that cats call each other by name. It would not surprise me to discover that my Thumb Cat has some unflattering nicknames for my Mawey.

I just think people would treat their pets and other animals with a different level of respect if they considered, for a moment, that those animals may have individual names… even if we don’t know those names.

One of my friends said her cows “moo” loudly at night for a week or two after the baby calves are taken away. She said it’s because the momma cows are calling for their babies. Well… did the momma cows’ babies have names?